Anecdote #31

Man is a social animal. This is a phrase that has often raised a lot of questions in my head. Earlier I thought it meant to say that it was imperative to be a part of a social circle to survive in society. Middle school for me was a journey that hit quite a few low points and at that time I needed a sorted and mature head at my side. Sadly I was expecting too much and none of my friends met my standards. It is very hard to empathise with a person because pity is all that the human mind can actually fathom. In the midst of all this I decided to be my own friend. My greatest fear like a lot of other people was to be alone. But at the same time my friends seemed nothing more than acquaintances. Finally the twelve year old me decided to undertake a social experiment which was talking to everyone and being cordial but finding the answers to my own problems without the help of a best friend. I can say that though it was hard not sharing my emotions, feelings and being in my own space but during that period it was the apt choice for me. I grew stronger emotionally and actually formed closer bonds with my family. I learnt that nothing can beat the advice of parents and they are your emotional anchors. I learnt that human beings like people who have less problems to share and mostly in today's time want friends to have fun with and then post it on social media. It is truly hard to find a deep emotional connection. In no way am I trying to state that we should stop talking to people, I didn't do that. I simply give them the time that was equivalent to their worth in my life. 

Looking back and introspecting, I feel that this is now is one of my greatest strengths. I am not afraid of going alone for a coffee and I feel a sense of tranquility and freedom when I am by myself. It is all a matter of how you train your mind. Stop paying heed to your insecurities and be your own judge. The fact is that apart from you, no one can fathom the intensity of your emotions. Make a personal note of this and remember that the realities of your life are only known by you, so train your mind to study them objectively. Believe me that when you are able to deal with your emotional tussles successfully, it is the most empowering feeling in this world.