When does one finally grow up? Though legally I am an adult, I don't feel like one. That doesn't mean that I take rash decisions or am not aware of my responsibilities. The fact is that I am still pretty emotionally dependent on my parents. As soon as I face a problem my instinctive reaction is to complain about it to my parents. Being an only child, my parents were my companions and fortunately they still are. I am at my uninhibited best with them and perhaps look for people with similar traits as their's. But life is not all roses and as much as I love my parents, they are my biggest weakness. I cannot seem to see them go through times of trouble and at times there is a feeling of helplessness as I do not have the power to amend their circumstances.
I'm sure a lot of others feel this way about their loved ones as well. It's during these times that we begin to get frustrated and due to excessive stress and bottled up emotions may begin to damage our relationships with others. Then the impending question should be what must be done? I like to pray, not because I plead for God to chase away my problems but because prayer gives me solace and is my happy place. If you don't pray then my advice for you would be that don't try to solve their problems. If you can't watch them suffer then join hands with them in their safar. What I mean to say is that take this journey with them. Listen to their problems, even though it may hurt you, remember that their hearts may have gotten lighter in this process. But at the same time that doesn't mean that you should be the their emotional dustbins. There are different kinds of people in this world and we must know where to draw the line. You just need to be a cushion of support because at the end of the day a little does a lot. When the time comes you'll be mature enough to handle bigger problems. Don't try to be a messiah but just do your part diligently and lovingly. At the end of all this you will get stronger and a few years down the line you'll be able to look at everything with a much more practical point of view.
I'm sure a lot of others feel this way about their loved ones as well. It's during these times that we begin to get frustrated and due to excessive stress and bottled up emotions may begin to damage our relationships with others. Then the impending question should be what must be done? I like to pray, not because I plead for God to chase away my problems but because prayer gives me solace and is my happy place. If you don't pray then my advice for you would be that don't try to solve their problems. If you can't watch them suffer then join hands with them in their safar. What I mean to say is that take this journey with them. Listen to their problems, even though it may hurt you, remember that their hearts may have gotten lighter in this process. But at the same time that doesn't mean that you should be the their emotional dustbins. There are different kinds of people in this world and we must know where to draw the line. You just need to be a cushion of support because at the end of the day a little does a lot. When the time comes you'll be mature enough to handle bigger problems. Don't try to be a messiah but just do your part diligently and lovingly. At the end of all this you will get stronger and a few years down the line you'll be able to look at everything with a much more practical point of view.
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